Angry Man Redux
Biggie’s pissed off again, how shocking! I’m guilty of 2 crimes this time:
1. I have a separate chat window for tells, which I keep up on the top left corner of my screen. This was obscured when I opened the Auction House window, so I missed his tells. After whispering me 4 times with no answer, he assumed I was ignoring him and got very upset, as is his wont when I don’t respond to him immediately. Accordingly, he gave me the cold shoulder when I finally saw his tells and whispered him back. Because not responding immediately to tells is a very good reason to get angry.
2. Rumor has it Ulduar is going live TODAY! Exciting, isn’t it? However, I have a work event I need to attend and thus must stay at work until the usual 5PM, although on most days if needed I’m able to get out a bit earlier. Biggie asked me to get out early today so we can hit Ulduar ASAP, I explained about the work meeting, he became extremely aggravated and insisted I leave early. I can’t.
“You’re on a hot streak.” Of pissing him off, he meant. When I ventured to say, “I wish you were a little more understanding”, he shot back with “Well I wish you’d be more attentive!” We’re really butting heads here because I swear, Internet, I’m more attentive to him than anyone else in my life, including my own MOTHER. He’s blown up at me before for missing a tell of his, so since then I’ve just about broken my fingers making sure I type back to him instantly anytime he whispers me. I’d like to say I’m on high alert to cater to his needs because I love him, but honestly it’s because I’m afraid he’ll lose his temper again. Ain’t that somethin.
This issue about my job vs. his feelings may be escalating into something that will be very sad for me, either way.
April 15, 2009 at 11:23 pm
You know him better than any of your audience here, so ultimately you have to decide whether he’s worth it… but from the picture you’re painting, he’s not.
He’s being childish, insecure, selfish and unreasonable. You’re old enough and intelligent enough to realise where this is leading but the sad truth is that unless he can change and mellow out a bit more (growing up a bit might help too), you’re never going to truly be a good fit as a couple.
The saddest thing is that he clearly has qualities that attract you to him. They just seem to be overshadowed by the negative parts.
And if you’re afraid of his temper now, one can only imagine how much worse it could potentially get… battered wife syndrome ain’t pretty.
April 16, 2009 at 5:15 pm
I’ve been reading your blog after stumbling on it a few weeks ago and I feel the need to speak up as Krys did. This does not sound like a healthy relationship.
1. It’s a game (And yes, I am a gamer, a gm of my own guild on Blackrock) but regardless, it’s still a game. Getting emotionally upset over a battle rez, a missed tell, etc is very immature.
2. Essentially telling you that a game is far more important then a job (that pays your bills and gives you a place to live) is BEYOND irresponsible.
3. That anger, the way he talks to you and the way he seems to try to control you is …. well… just please be careful. Abuse is abuse, be it physical or mental. Mental can leave scares long after any physical and this is DEFINITELY bordering on mental abuse.
My advice, and as Krys said, we don’t know the guy…. BE CAREFUL and considering getting out now or getting the guy some anger management. You are walking a VERY dangerous road.
April 21, 2009 at 1:05 pm
I was happy to see you’ve started posting in your blog again. And then not so happy by how shitty things have been going.
I know I’m a stranger and leaving advice on a blog is a pretty stupid thing to do. (I mean who knows I could be a one eyed pirate, with no teeth, that likes broadway musicals….) And fully realizing how inane it is for a stranger to be leaving another stranger advice, I’ll still dive right in.
He is acting possessive, insecure, and judging from your posts his behavior is borderline abusive. He’s using his anger to manipulate you. In short, he’s trying to control you and it’s starting to work.
On the face of things it seems like classic abusive behavior. The more you allow him to control you the more you’ll feel like you are ‘walking on eggshells’, the more
brazen he will become, and you will become more unhappy.
You say that you love him which I am sure you do. If you love someone would you make them feel the way that he makes you feel?